Be happy, stay happy

Hey Maggy, lets out today,’

And where might we be going?

Do not worry, by the end of the day you will feel happy and re-energized.

This was a conversation I had with a friend some days ago. With the promise of feeling happy at the end of the day, I gladly agreed to go out with my friends. I mean, who would not want to go home, feeling nostalgic?

To cut the long story short I went out and by the end of the day, I was very happy and kept wishing of having more of such days. That was healthy living according to me because as it is whatever makes you happy, then you ought to keep it. However, no sooner had I thought that I was on life’s right track than something knocked my thoughts off balance.

I am one to read random papers I come across and on this particular day, I found myself reading a piece of a magazine( this particular one was from Xpatlink Mag, April/May 2018#161) which had been used to wrap the meat I had bought earlier on, on one of my shopping sprees. If you are from Kenya, you know the serious roles played by old newspapers and magazines especially in butcheries. That aside, the content on the tattered piece of magazine lured me in, and for a minute or two; I was busy staring hard at the paper.

The article had the title, ‘The 10 Daily Habits of Happy People’, and well, you now know why I was easily drawn in. after reading and trying my best to internalize each of the 10 points it suddenly dawned on me that all my life I have been making a very serious mistake. Which mistake might this be Maggy? Some things made me believe or rather I have made me believe that happiness should be an end result of the things I do

Meaning that I live and so do many, we live life thinking that we should do things, which will make us happy at the end of the day. This is not wrong until you realize that happiness is a constant experience and feeling rather than a goal achieved at the end of the day. And so the narrative now changes, do what keeps you happy all the time. Not just once, but all the time, it should not be limited by the time of day or anything like that.

This was a whole new awakening process for me, not only did I want to be happy, but also the concept of staying happy no matter what stuck in my head.

The 10 daily habits as I found out were

  1. Treat yourself with kindness
  2. Let go of petty issues
  3. Take time to recharge and be alone
  4. Unplug when needed.
  5. Keep up an organization in a physical and mental space
  6. Stay in the present
  7. Allow yourself to feel emotions
  8. Put wishes into actions
  9. Exercise and eat healthy
  10. Practice good decision-making.

Tight? I could use Tighter!

I was walking home one evening with my younger brother who is about 4, and those with kids can assert that at this age a million questions are asked each day. But that is besides the point, as we were walking home from town we passed near a very big open sewer line and apart from the obvious foul smell that came from it, there was also the danger of one slipping and falling into the open ditch. My baby brother Jose, as we call him could not help but shout at me to hold his hand tighter. Not that I was not holding it but he just felt unsafe and kept ranting at me to tighten my grip around his tiny hands.

I did as he said and it was not until I reached home that I realized how much that meant. It was more than just me holding his hand tighter; it made him feel safer and he could now walk without any fear of falling into the open sewer line. To me this was a physical illustration of how sometimes words of assurance have no effect and there comes the need for something more; being held tighter. A hug is said to do wonders and more than anything think about what a tight embrace would do. It is not always easy to comfort of encourage people when they are in distress but just being there and holding their hands tighter does the magic for you.

Many, myself included have at some point felt the need to be alone or rather the need to not hear anyone say anything to you. Often times it is not that the person is being rude or anything, but they just need to be held and not only that but be held tightly. We can all admit that warm tight embraces are worth far more than a million words of comfort. Is not wonderful to know that no matter what happens there is someone holding your hand tighter and preventing you from falling? Well be that someone today and maybe tomorrow there will be dozens of hands ready to hold you tighter.